How Reactivity keeps you stuck in loops of chaos...

One of the biggest lessons I've learned on my journey so far is this

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"If you take action from a state of reactivity you’re destined to create chaos in your life and business"​
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Why?
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Because reactivity feeds the very cycle that blocks everything you want from coming to you.
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Let’s go deeper.
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At the core of Self Mastery is your IQ.
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But not your intellectual IQ
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Your Emotional IQ
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From my viewpoint emotional intelligence is “the art of turning your reactions into proactive responses, and your pain into purpose”​
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My belief is we did not come to this world to simply “achieve things” and die
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On a deeper level we came here to transform our negativity into positivity.
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Think of your favourite “character driven” movie… (or use your own story as an example)
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Character.. Struggle (negative reality).. Low point.. Decision to change.. Transformation.. Winning (new positive reality)
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They turned their negativity into positivity.
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But.. what people often times miss in the above story is that in order to reach this “new positive reality”
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A consistent set of choices must be made at each moment.. especially the little moments.
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When we live in a state of reactivity we lose the opportunity to step into that “new positive reality”
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If we go deeper into ancient wisdom from the great sages thousands of years ago we learn that reactivity is thinking, behaving, or acting from a state of lack.
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Lack is directly tied to emotions that sit on the lower scale of consciousness (i.e guilt, shame, apathy, fear - see the scale below)
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Example: you feel like you are behind on your numbers this month because someone else shared how they hit a "big month" this month so you urgently take action to change your results, sending hundreds of DM’s or creating videos etc.
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This action is taken from a state of reactivity (lack)
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The result is more chaos.. such as nobody responding to your actions, or taking on nightmare clients that you don’t want to work with, or working endlessly “trying” and seeing no results..
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(These are examples, how this shows up in your life is unique, I can’t predict your experience)
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Just know that Lack (input) = Lack (output) ​
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Underneath that feeling of lack is something deeper that is calling to be dissolved so you can purify the Energetic Fuel source driving your behaviours subconsciously.
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This is the same reason entrepreneurs burnout constantly… lack, scarcity and urgency drive behaviour
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then that becomes the identity that “works” (danger zone when it works)
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Even if it appears to be working, chaos emerges and the success or progress made cannot be enjoyed (i.e the goal post just moves) or it results in endless cycles of burnout.
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Burnout comes from the constant feeling of lack fuelling the work, not the work itself.
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The problem is, most people will just see that as "normal" because its been their way of living for so long... until something changes that.
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and hey, everyones on their own journey. zero judgement here (i've been there)
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So when it comes to developing your emotional IQ it’s about choosing to be proactive (wholeness) over reactive (lack)
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Wholeness in this sense can be seen as an emotion thats higher up on the emotional scale.. (attached in the image below) such as neutrality.
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To be proactive it’s about pausing in those moments of reactivity and making a new choice from a place of wholeness within remembering you lack nothing.
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It’s developing the self awareness at each moment and asking… Am I being reactive right now?
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If so, why? What deep inside of me right now is calling for my attention.
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Then, go into that.. then take massive violent action from a state of wholeness.
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Even asking that question is beginning to dissolve reactive behaviour, getting to the root and stepping into the “new positive reality” where you experience what you say you want.
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So instead of just “doing more of the same”
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Try looking at the emotion fuelling “the doing”
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As you tap deeper into this, you’ll see that you can do very little and get much better results because your actions are fuelled differently.

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Always in your corner,

Jordan

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P.S The patterns that fuel the feelings of “lack” are primarily subconscious and are directly tied to your identity (who you believe yourself to be) if you want to dissolve these patterns for good and make a long term sustainable shift in identity, that starts with switching fuel sources.. If you want details click here​
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